“Here we go again, I don’t like it!”
the girl uttered with a loud voice. “What did you say?” the mother responded.
The mother gets angry and added, “Don’t use that tone with me young lady!” and
another argument begun.
A blunt approach tends to close the
mind and heart of a person who reasons out. Therefore, it is not the right way
to succeed in an argument; you need a good reasoning. Reasoning is important
because it encourages people to think what to say later and it helps them on
the idea of what is true or false. Moreover, a good reasoning will boost you to
develop your “thinking ability” and to use your “power to reason”. However if a
good reasoning is not practiced in a better way, then there’s a tendency to become
baffled. So, here are some suggestions on how to improve your reasoning skills
so that it will play a great role in winning an argument.
First step is to think before you respond. “The
heart of the righteous one meditates so as to answer, but the mouth of the
wicked ones bubbles forth with bad things.”(Proverbs 15:28). It is wise to
spend some time to think before you talk. Meditate for a while on what to speak
of. Also, don’t blurt out whatever that comes first into your mind and don’t
reply impulsively. When an argument arises, plan your thought well before you
speak. It is impressive if you consider the listener’s feelings on how he will
react to what you said.
Second is to speak respectfully. The
ability on how to speak to others has a great factor to win an argument. Show
respect to others regardless of their age. You may use respectful words and
among these are “please” and “kindly”. Supposing you feel you’re about to lose
control, offer a brief, silent prayer to God. Of course, your objective is to
maintain self-control, lest you act emotionally. In addition, learn to speak slowly so that
the listener will understand you more. Aside
from those factors, the facial and body language is also necessary to show
respect to the opponent. Remember the importance of speaking respectfully because
it will help you win an argument.
Then the next one is to listen.
According to Proverbs 10:19, “In the abundance of words there does not
fail to be transgression, but the one keeping his lips in check is acting
discreetly.” This means, if you talk too much you will say the wrong thing. So,
it is vital to give your full attention to the speaker when they’re talking.
Keep away the things that will distract your conversation and maintain an eye
contact. Remember that there’s a time to talk and a time to keep quiet.
Therefore, don’t justify yet, instead, just listen and let him finish talking.
A good reasoning will lead to winning an argument, providing you’re a good
listener.
And lastly, be willing to apologize.
Humbleness makes a man more prominent. It is always appropriate to say “sorry”
for anything you did and said. It doesn’t matter either you’re right or wrong,
whether you win or lose, but the brilliant idea was that you brought peace
after the argument. After you are used to apologize, life would be easier for
you. And, in that case you will determine how to win an argument with a sense
of reasoning.
